Why after something upsetting or distressing occurs do I ask myself:
‘Why did that happen?’ or ‘Why did they do that?’ or ‘Why me, why is it always me?’
‘Why should I believe you?’ or simply….. ‘But why?’
These are questions we ask ourselves on a regular basis, even if we don’t recognise it – we do!
These questions of ourselves are more often than not SILENT questions
SILENT questions that usually offer up no answer at all
The same occurs if we vocalise these questions, as most of those asked can only answer:
‘Well, I don’t know’
Is this because they can’t see what we saw & thought was ‘wrong’ Yes……?
In their judgement they may even think what they saw was ‘right’ Ummm…..?
So therein lies a dilemma…..AS…
An answer to the question of ‘Why’ can only be satisfactorily answered if it fits with the expectations of the person who posed the question.
So when we ask ourselves ‘But why?’ we need to look behind, before & beyond our ‘set’ expectations, or limitations.
Only we can possibly know when, where & why we ‘set’ them.
Are they still the same today & if so WHY, why?
How did we learn these parameters we have probably stuck to, and…
Are they still suitable for our life today?
Is that a worthwhile question? Ask yourself…. Hmmm…..?